Often our thoughts of leaving or being fired from a job can be more stressful than our toxic job, Many find ourselves caught in a toxic sandwich, do I stay or do I leave and what if I get fired? These thoughts of the unknown can play havoc with possibility as our brains day by day put out the light on a vision of us doing something else. Stress can be debilitating and keep us in the grind for years, never able to see or reflect on the alternative.
These toxic thoughts just keep coming:
1.) I could never leave this job, everything would fall apart, they need me too much.
2.) I am too old to leave this job, I would lose my benefits.
3.) I would never find another job.
4.) My life would be ruined, I would lose my home and my lifestyle.
5.) I would never survive change.
6.) I would be seen as a failure
7.) I do not have any other options.
8.) I will be penniless and living on the streets.
9.) My kids would not respect me.
10.) I would destroy all of my expectations of a life well lived.
Wow, that is heavy, I mean really heavy and all because of a job? There is nothing in this thinking that even remotely implies that leaving a job or even beginning to look for another one would or could be a positive experience. Because of this commonly held thinking, I rarely hear a client say, I think I will leave my job and skip through the tulips of happiness and see how it goes, never. Instead, I see people sitting in their gloom and doom pity party behind the four walls of a cubicle, waiting for happy hour.
The most important thing we need when we want to make a change is a thriving throat chakra, some good friends and acquaintances, a call to a reputable head hunter, some community get togethers and the desire to show up. Start saving up for ninety days of salary and volunteer. I have seen more people find jobs by volunteering.
The next most important thing is to bust all the beliefs that we do not have the money, could never pay our expenses and that we might lose everything, la di da di da, the same old melody playing over and over in our head. This is also the same old story that has probably kept us in aworthless job for years.
Toss out your story , choose freedom and walk into the world without fear and with your heart wide open. When you are willing to lose everything you build a basket ready for abundance and life meets you there. Visualize happiness instead of misery and failure, does your body even know what that feels like? Instead of shame and embarrassment and self-criticism why not try on a vision of a stimulating career with supportive people working with you. The universe cannot provide if it doesn’t even know what it looks like.
Feel the excitement of a change, see different possibilities and create a new life, aligned with our true purpose. See change as a new adventure. Downsize your life to afford more and feel more abundant and take time for you, the best investment of all.
Lastly, question toxic thoughts and do not fall victim to their agonizing outcome. Focus on happiness not money and build a value system on what really matters. Bust your beliefs and change your world.